Do you think of yourself as resilient? If something doesn’t go your way do you bounce like a ball or do you curl up into a ball and curse the world?
The way in which you deal with the stress caused by unexpected events has a major influence on how you approach life. If you are the ‘curl up into a ball’ type, you will go to great lengths to avoid stressful situations and cut yourself off from experiences that you might otherwise enjoy.
As you know, I usually focus on providing tips and solutions for parents who have slightly older children i.e. from about 6 years but I believe that developing a good sleep routine early on is beneficial to both parents and babies. Investing time in solving your child’s sleep issues right now is worth it because all acquired sleep skills will last forever, meaning that a healthy sleep habit will set your child up for life. Your child will be grateful for good sleeping abilities well into their adulthood. But most importantly, as a new parent, you will be able to get some much-needed shut eye!
I have been watching how the concept of Hygge has become a more used and recognised term in the UK and US over the past 18 months. This is largely based on a few savvy people who have published a range of hygge books, marketing campaigns that are tapping into the term as well as newspaper and magazine articles which have brought the phrase hygge into people’s awareness. Being Danish, I thought it was about time for me to explore this trend, since I was born and bred in Denmark. After all, over the years, I have been exposed to hygge on a regular basis. Despite having lived in the UK for 25 years, I still like to say that we offer a lot of hygge in our pre-predominately English household! To help me write this article and crystalise my thoughts, I asked a few fellow Danes to support me by providing their views on hygge, and what makes something hyggeligt.
My son has never slept (he is now 14) and he was recently referred to a sleep centre. Over the years, we have tried everything to help getting him to sleep. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, ASD and is very sensory which all contribute to his sleep problems. He would often fall asleep in his morning classes, then to be wide awake at bedtime. The anxiety faced at bedtime by a child who has sleep problems, as they know that they will not sleep, causes sleep anxiety problems in itself.
Constant bickering between siblings can cause most parents to lose their ‘love of parenting’. It sure isn’t fun when your kids are at war with each other most of the time. When emotions run high, it can be difficult to appreciate that squabbling is part of childhood development but full-blown sibling rivalry is not inevitable.
Let’s put our heads together and tackle mental health
Are you ready to look inside a teenager’s mind, if even just for a few minutes?
“Alarm clock goes off, I am lying in bed, my head feels fuzzy and my body is heavy. All I can think about is ‘how will I manage to pull the covers back’ and actually get out of bed to face yet another day filled with worries, sadness and what feels like utter despair. I am dreading getting out of bed, I know the day will be spent on trying to avoid people and the demands they put on me. Let alone trying to avoid the ever returning question from every one ‘how are you today?’ when it is so clear that no one could cope with an honest answer. I have come to realise a very simple fact, no one wants to know the truth, people just expect the standard reply of ‘I’m fine, how are you?’ I wonder how they would react if I told them that I am not coping!
Your child seems overly worried but is it time to take action? This is a great question so let’s look at how stress impacts on your child’s overall health. First, it is important to remember that being affected by stress is not necessarily a bad thing, the right level of stress can help your child perform better, keep them focussed and maintain their motivation. However, too much stress or pressure over a long period is counter-productive because it will make your child ill, both mentally and physically. In some ways, you might say that the signs of stress are pre-cursors for anxiety i.e. headaches, poor sleeping, being irritable, sore muscles, unable to relax, worries, and heart pumping faster than usual which means they are warning signs that should not be ignored in a young person.
Bullying has always been around but in recent years the term ‘bullying’ has gained considerable attention particularly with increased focus in the media. As a parent, you may feel unsure whether your child is actually being bullied as it may not be clear when every-day interactions between children have crossed that line into bullying.
Do you fear your child will be gobbled up?
Over millions of years, living beings have evolved and part of this evolution included our instinct to survive. Back in the mists of time, when there were lots of dangers waiting to claim those who were unprepared, survival instincts were likely needed on a regular basis. The concept of experiencing real fear is a prime example of what was needed to kick our mind and bodies into gear to keep us safe. But things have changed, and for most of us this heightened level of fear is no longer necessary to survive.
You are standing at the sink, thinking about the long list of things you need to finish before you go to bed. All of a sudden you realise your distressed teenager is telling you something and you have no clue what they’ve been on about for the last 5 minutes, a familiar feeling?