If you are reading this blog, it could be that you are looking for information regarding self-harming for yourself, or maybe you are a parent seeking ways to understand and support your child who is self-injuring.
There are many misconceptions around the reasons why young people self-harm with false statements like ‘teenagers who self-harm are only doing it to get attention from others’ and ‘because the injuries done by the young person are superficial it is a phase they will simply grow out of’ being just a few examples.
People who self-harm may do so due to issues related to depression, low self-esteem, bullying, divorce, grief, physical or mental abuse as well as many other life altering episodes which have triggered a stress response in the self-injuring person.
When a young person self-harms it may follow a particular pattern, but sometimes it is more random. The methods used to self-harm are many, with examples being cutting, pulling, biting, burning, overeating, not eating, throwing up and abusing drugs or alcohol.
If you self-harm, it could be that you recognise some of these thoughts ‘when I hurt myself, it feels like it is the only thing I am in control of’ or ‘I do it because I deserve to be punished’ or maybe the thought is ‘no one cares anyway, and it helps me feeling less numb’. Whatever your thoughts are, together we will work towards identifying your reasons for injuring yourself, and how you can elect to stop self-harming.
One of the first thing we would discuss is whether you feel ready to make a change and that you are willing to consider stopping hurting yourself. We will also find the best way for you to express yourself and your feelings in a more healthy way. You will receive support from me to help you change negative perceptions and sensations to get rid of the stress, anxiety, fear, insomnia or pain you are experiencing.
Also, to ensure you get the right support from your home environment, we will cover how you can improve the communication with your family by discussing how they can best support you. As an example, it could be that you wish for your parents to have a better understanding of the feelings and thoughts you are experiencing, and possibly for them to stop judging you.
I always recommend that you initially seek advice and support from your GP as they need to be aware of your current situation. Following this, I am happy to provide you with the alternative support to help you overcome your addictive behaviour of self-harming by guiding you through the various methods available from NLP, hypnotherapy and CBT exercises.
You have taken a great step today by researching solutions for self-harming, I hope you are ready to take the next step, and give me a call or send me an email to discuss your concerns. When you speak to me, there will be no pressure to proceed further, if you simply want to have a chat that is absolutely fine. Feel proud of yourself for reaching out.
By Tina Elven